https://www.kendolan-delvecchio.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/88/2018/08/massppeal.jpg 334 600 Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio https://www.kendolan-delvecchio.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/88/2018/09/kenAsset-1.png Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio2019-06-04 19:05:152019-06-04 19:14:36How To Nurture Your Child's Self-Esteem - Mass Appeal
Nurturing Our Child’s Self-Esteem
- First and most important, never attack your child personally:
- Imagine what it feels like to be called dumb, stupid, lazy, weak, or any other name by your mom or dad.
- Make a commitment to never verbally assault your child.
- It helps to give your child feedback so they develop positive behaviors—“shhh, we need to be quiet in the library; remember, it’s important to pet the puppy very gently because he’s so little”— but personal attacks/name calling only hurts them.
- Notice your child’s positive behavior and compliment her or him on these:
- I like the way you share your toys with your little brother.
- I see the way you pay attention to the game even when you’re all the way out in left field—way to go!
- You got a gold star on your math homework—that’s great work!
- Give them words they can hang onto that describe their strengths:
- You’re a loving big brother.
- You’re a good team player and you’re good at paying attention.
- You know how to take responsibility for getting your homework done.
- Do not give your child untruthful or exaggerated compliments as this distorts their ability to accurately assess their own attributes and skills.
- It never helps to say things that lessen your child’s grasp on reality.
- Affirming your child’s self-esteem in the ways described above does not negate the need to also give your child constructive feedback.
- We all benefit from constructive criticism when it’s delivered in a way that is indeed constructive and not hurtful.